Do you have a crush on a Finnish man? Are you dreaming of a relationship with him but have no idea how to proceed? Thanks to the mighty internet, I am here to help. With a lot of experience of Finnish men (err… that sentence sounded so much better and less misinterpretable in my head), I come to your aid.
About getting to know you
A Finnish man doesn’t carry a big cultural expectation about how a woman should be. In Finland, women can be whatever and live however they choose. Personally, I feel the only boundaries are those what we women make to ourselves. So share your dreams and goals of life. Tell him your bad habits (picking your nose, having a specific place for everything in the dishwasher etc.). He wants to get to know the real you and all sides of you!
About suggesting things
Be proactive. You are two individuals with minds full of ideas, so do not wait for him to always take the initiative. In Finnish, we have an adjective “perässä vedettävä”. It describes something or someone who is pulled along behind, like a trailer is towed with a car. You don’t want to be his trailer, you want to be in the car, making your journey together.
About moping around
Let’s be honest, it is exhausting and annoying to be around a sulking person. It just completely sucks all energy out of you. For some reason, we ladies (and yes, I also include us Finnish women) are the experts in this field. Moping is truly a turn-off feature, so talk it through or opt for some me-time and come back spirits lifted.
About holding the purse strings
A Finnish man appreciates that you can take care of yourself and be financially independent. Most likely he has a car, a summer cottage, children, parents and his own hobbies to pay for. At the start of a relationship, it is common in Finland to have your monetary business separate for quite some time.
About genuine interest
Ask about his background, traditions and hobbies. Even better, if you want to try the things that are close to his heart. For example, a Finnish man may have especially close relationship with nature. Even though this might be a little strange to you, see if you enjoy it too. In the worst case scenario, you are a bit bored but get a nice doze of fresh air.
About glamming up
In some countries, girls are taught that they may meet the man of their dreams on whatever quick visit to the store. Thus, they are always prepared and dressed to kill when they go outside.
In Finland, girls are taught that the man of your dreams will see you in a horrible influenza, when you are too drunk and when you are delivering his babies.
Hopefully, not all at the same time, though. What I am trying to say here is that a Finnish man will, for sure, love you without any make-up or a fancy wardrobe. Actually, most Finnish men say that their ladies are the most beautiful when they are coming from a sauna, all fresh and rosy-cheeked.